Could Be Good Enough

I feel complacent. The days just run together here—it’s me, my parents, my laptop. Next thing you know it’s dark again.

People ask where I am. It always catches me off guard. For some reason I assume that everyone who knows me, from my ex-fiancée from college to coworkers I haven’t seen in a year, must follow my every move. The plan is the center of my life and I forget others don’t follow it so closely. How is South America? Are you still in Thailand? Where are you?

Right now I’m in Wisconsin. Where in Wisconsin? You wouldn’t know it. But it’s near other towns that, likewise, you wouldn’t know.

I like it here. I didn’t think I would. When I left Mexico I was nervous. I planned to spend two months visiting family and I wondered if that might be about seven weeks too many.

We live on a small farm. Neither of my parents grew up farmers, but it’s my dad’s retirement dream. For the first month I was here, Zangmo joined us. I’ve made a few jaunts to the Cities to see various friends and Beth. But mostly it’s been me and the two people who gave me life, in the middle of nowhere.

Zangmo and I went canoeing.

Dad doesn’t talk much. Mom does, sometimes. A lot of the time it’s just quiet (never when I’m trying to write). They have two cats who will run away if you try to pet them, so there may actually be a negative amount of socialization happening in the house.

The hours slip by this way. Somehow it’s March, April, June—what happened? I wake up early each morning, intention to write a lot; write some. I’m making dinner. Then they’re in their beds and it’s just me, the wine, the computer, the music.

I could just stay here. Mom sure would like the company. Dad’d love the help. Two years, ten years. Help with chores in the morning, write nights. No rent, no hole in my heart, meet a local girl.

Nobody would fault me for settling down, and I’m tempted every chance.

Sometimes comfort is the enemy of adventure. I’ve been so complacent I wanted to turn down a kayaking trip. Co-adventurer Mitch and I might take sea kayaks down the Gulf of Mexico when I get that far. We have a chance to take lessons together in Duluth, Minnesota.

For two weeks I’ve wondered if I can cancel.

I don’t actually want to cancel. I’ll actually be much happier if I go do something new, with a man I hardly know who might paddle across the world with me. I thrill at that very idea: if I didn’t, I should take adventurer off my business card.

But I get this way sometimes. When I have a comfortable daily life I convince myself I have lots of writing to do. It gives me a reason to go nowhere and, if I let myself, I would grow old this way and regret it.

Are you the kind of person who’s tempted to adventure, but would rather stay home? Or are you the kind of person who’s tempted to stay home, but would rather adventure?

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Unfortunate Search Strings

And now for something much more serious. More serious, yes, than comparative levels of penetration of progressive values in marginalized philosophies. Whew.

Today it’s time to answer questions from Google!

Yay!

Every day scores of people find their way to Rogue Priest with unfortunate search strings. I’m sure some of them eventually get their answers elsewhere, like all the World of Warcraft players looking for strategy advice (sorry!). But I feel a little guilty that Google dropped them here and they didn’t get what they needed.

So, in a lower-effort version of answering viewer mail, I’m answering viewer search strings. If you’re one of the poor souls who searched for these, (a) welcome to the site (b) glad you stuck around and (c) here are your answers at long last.

rogue preist+drew jacobs

It’s Jacob, singular, like the prophet.

Also your syntax is wrong. Also, everything else.

ex girlfriend is horrible to me

Are you still sleeping with her? If so, stop. Horribleness will probably decline when you make a clean break. If you’re not still sleeping together, start. Clearly she wants you.

how to sell world domination summit ticket

You can’t. The deadline is past. Sad.

priest are arrogant

Not all priest!

thailand business attire

Reggae-themed clothing is a hit in any setting there. You think I’m kidding, but you’ll see.

i ensure the night

Most excellent search string so far. This is actually really poetic. Or it seemed like it at first. But if you think about it, the night is going to come every evening no matter what—there’s really nothing short of Ragnarok that can change that. So this is kind of like ensuring teenagers will be horny. Nice try though.

how can i break my ankle myself?

Don’t spout that nonsense on my blog.

not good enough, copying people, feeling like a burden, unsatisfied, ugly 

Wow.

This one worried me at first. Somebody feels that low? Then I realized the person searching for this isn’t thinking of themselves. They’re listing symptoms they see in someone else and trying to figure out what mental issue it is. So someone does feel that low, but they aren’t coming directly to me for help.

Tell your friend to get a waitress pad.

pagan vs catholic

The Catholics won.

genocide hypothesis causes

foot stress fractures caused by vibram 5 fingers

I’m sorry.

we need more heroes guys

YEAH!

how weight acceptance is making us overweight

It isn’t. It’s helping people address a solvable health problem (shame and stress), while educating them about the true effects of dieting (usually weight gain). I used the think the same thing though. I recommend this blog if you care.

“fat acceptance” portions

Interesting hypothesis.

can you pull an all nighter to fix jet lag

Works every time.

can i reduce my shoe size by building up my arches?

Signs point to yes.

sitting in a chair while you sleep

…is awesome.

can someone be a hero and not help others

I’m tempted to say no. I’m curious what Rogue Priest readers think though. Assuming “others” can be abstract things like helping the environment, I can’t imagine heroic action that doesn’t help others. Otherwise what would it be? A mental exercise? Being a hero for accepting who you are?

Any thoughts?

Writing is how I support myself. If you appreciate Rogue Priest, believe in my philosophy, or just love seeing a spirited adventurer on the road, please make a donation to the cause. Your gift will help fund professional-quality equipment for the Great Adventure. It’ll keep me safe and help every step of the way.


Better Atheism

Yesterday was a troll-caliber kerfuffle. I stated that Pagans, as a movement, do a better job of championing cultural pluralism and religious tolerance than atheists as a movement do. That shouldn’t be surprising since Pagans have a multi-decade head start on fighting for acceptance and have a direct interest in both of those issues.

But, insisting I was wrong, one commenter offered:

The core of the new atheist ‘movement’ …is that there should be no privileged respect for religion, any more than there is for a political viewpoint or a scientific hypothesis. Religion can and should be criticised as robustly as possible… religion should be treated with boxing gloves, not kid gloves.

The use of extremely disrespectful language by new atheists is in this vein often a consciousness-raising exercise, to contrast with the unwarranted reverence with which religious attitudes and authorities are often treated. It’s the same disrespectful language with which (on a blog, at least) you might treat someone who held any other kind of laughable belief—for example, Rupert Sheldrake or Glenn Beck. [Drew's note: not on this blog, and I'd call such language puerile regardless of target.]

…If you see this as so wrong that you can declare it to be so by assertion, then you are not hoping that the ‘new’ atheism will reform—you are hoping it will go away.

This is an elegant statement of a common atheist position. It also proves my point. The defense here has nothing to do with demonstrating that atheists are by and large tolerant, it amounts to an apologia for why tolerance isn’t actually that important after all.

[Squinty eye.]

Luckily there are also reasonable and conscientious atheists who believe quite the opposite.

Atheist activist and Harvard Humanist Chaplaincy fellow Chris Stedman writes:

I am an atheist who wishes to promote critical thinking, compassion, and pluralism… I am far more concerned about whether someone is pluralistic in their worldview—if they oppose totalitarianism and believe people of different religious and nonreligious identities should be free to live as they choose and cooperate around shared values—than I am about whether someone believes in God or not.

To be sure, seeing an end to anti-atheist attitudes is a priority of mine. But it is a goal that is facilitated by relationship-building between atheists and the religious and by supporting meaningful communities for the nonreligious…

So let’s call it like it is. If your “top priority” is working to eliminate religion, you are not simply an atheist activist—you are an anti-religious activist.

I maintain significant disagreement with many religious beliefs, but I do not wish to be associated with narrow-minded, dehumanizing generalizations about religious people. I am disappointed that such positions represent atheist activism not only to the majority of our society, but to many of my fellow atheist activists as well.

(You can also dive into Chris’ blog NonProphet Status and look forward to his book Faitheist coming out in mid 2012.)

This is where I wish I could say, “So, it turns out most atheists are like Chris, and I’m sorry for misrepresenting you guys.” But I can’t, because Chris’ position is far from a majority view in the tapestry of contemporary atheism. If intolerance were rare among atheists, Chris wouldn’t have to explain why it’s wrong, and my affronted atheist commenter wouldn’t excuse “extremely disrespectful language” as a legitimate tactic at the core of the movement.

I write this knowing that there’s a huge demographic of very respectful, tolerant, ethical atheists and non-believers. Some of you are reading this right now. If you dislike what I said—if you think the atheist movement should be depicted as championing tolerance as strongly as any other movement—good. There are things you can do.

Confront intolerant atheists about their views. Tell anti-religious activists to get their hate language out of your peanut butter, and when you read atheist blogs or attend atheist conferences, speak out against crude or belittling language.

If you stand up against intolerance among atheists, you’ll make a better atheist movement. And you’ll make my criticism obsolete.

Comments are closed to avoid a repeat of yesterday.

My writing is how I support myself as I travel. If you appreciate Rogue Priest, believe in my philosophy, or just love seeing a spirited adventurer on the road, please consider making a donation to the cause. Your gift will help fund professional-quality equipment for the Great Adventure. It’ll keep me safe and help every step of the way.


The Gear Drive So Far

We’re on week two of the gear drive. Time for an update!

Gear matters. That’s me in 2002!

Goal: $860

Raised so far: $810~

This is amazing progress. I want to give my most heartfelt thanks to everyone who’s donated. And of course if you haven’t yet, you still can! Your gift will help me secure the equipment needed to stay as safe and healthy as possible as I undertake the upcoming Great Adventure, crossing two continents under my own power.

But time is getting short. In less than a week I’ll be heading to the outfitter to make my final gear purchases. The money raised here, along with what I’ve personally saved toward gear, will determine what I can get.

Since we have only $50 to go to the goal, there’s no doubt that every donation counts. Even small gifts add up quickly, and there are still postcards and meditation sessions available for you big spenders.

Could your gift be the one that pushes us past the goal?

Thank you!


Making a Religion Competitive

I used to feel that any effort to pick up converts to a religious point of view is dirty. In my most recent article at Patheos I question that. I wonder if the Pagan movement, as disjointed as it is, has in it the means to become a major world religion.

And if so, is an emphasis on heroic virtue its ticket to the big league?

Check it out for yourself:

Making Paganism Competitive

(For longtime readers I should point out I still think proselytizing is inappropriate, and that goes for Pagans too.)

Edit: I’ve closed comments on this post. One of our commenters descended into flamespeak, and the rest of the discussion was going too fast for me to monitor effectively. Many thanks to all those who weighed in with a respectful opinion, even (especially) a dissenting one.

If you enjoy reading Rogue Priest, believe in my journey, or just love seeing a spirited adventurer on the road, please consider making a donation to the cause. Your gift will help fund professional-quality equipment for the Great Adventure. It’ll keep me safe and help every step of the way.


Live on the Hero Report

Edit: Today’s show had to be postponed because of technical problems! Sad, but Matt and Ari plan to reschedule the show in the next few weeks. I’ll keep you posted!

This just in! I’ll be live on the air at the Hero Report with Ari Kohen and Matt Langdon. We’ll be podcasting today (Friday 5/18) at 4:00 EST.

I’m not sure exactly why I’m being invited back after last time—the damage to the set from our sword fight was pretty extensive. But I guess they want to hear more about the Adventure now that I’m on the verge of starting.

The best part is you can ask me questions live on the air! For details on how to do that, or just to tune in and watch, click here:

The Hero Report Weekly

If you can’t watch it live all episodes are archived on the front page of that site.


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